can you keep a man on the backburner?

Maybe.  But for how long?  A man will only take no for an answer for so long.  And then he will undoubtedly ask someone likely to say yes.  Then what?  We’re left saying damn, he could have been mine.  But if we were bound to be upset when someone else says yes why didn’t we just say yes long ago?

1. We think he will always be there, waiting.
2. We don’t believe his other relationships are serious and that if we decide we want to be with him he will make himself available.
3. We don’t want to settle.
4. No matter how many boxes we can check off with him he’s not the one.

Then why do we care when someone snatches him up:

1. Because we’re still alone.  And it was more fun being alone together.

Lesson: treat relationships like everything else in life worth having – if you want it, go for it. If you don’t, don’t waste time thinking/talking about it when you could be figuring out how to get what you actually want.

Salty – for no reason.